How much can you really know? February 17, 2010

So. I have been thinking.

How can you be sure that you really know a person. It is human nature to lie, cheat and steal.
I’m not talking a grand scale here, but who can honestly admit to never having told a lie, never stealing a glance at an answer or copying homework, and never downloaded a song etc.

I’ve been in my current job for about 19 months. In that time I have met some amazing people, and whilst I don’t see them out of work they do make life a little more bearable when you can bounce off their energy, vent a little and have a bit of a goss. These people know the work me. I can be serious, moody, stressed and sometimes very hyper. I love my job and I love these amazing people.

My question is, whilst I don’t consider these people “friends” they probably know more about me then those I call “friends”, when do you stop calling someone a colleague and begin calling them a friend?

Is a friend measured by how much time you spend with them? If so, my closest friends should, in fact, be merely aquaintances. My best friend, I see very little. I don’t need to see or speak to her everyday — I would love to, but it just doesn’t happen. Again, facebook helps here. But I can go months, years even, and it is like time has stood still since I last saw her. I believe this is the true test of friendship.

Measurement of a friends ability shouldn’t be determined by what they know about you. I can honestly say the only person who knows everything about me is not a friend. She never was. I visited her once — sometimes twice – a week for many, many months. She was a shrink. [A fact that I am not ashamed to admit by the way]
Yet, some of my closest friends don’t even know some of the random facts that make up me, but people on the outer do.

My new goal is to compose a list. Maybe I will make a new page, and add to it whenever I recall some new information, or if I aquire some new random quirk. Even if noone reads it, it will still be a list of my traits, my likes, my hates, everything about me. I am not usually into the airing of all affairs but stuff it — technology is getting so advanced it won’t be long before you can all look up my credit rating…